I’m Tired of the Mommy Battles

Breastfed or Bottle fed.

Stay at Home or Working.

Public School or Homeschool.

The mommy battles rage and this week another started.

It’s not okay to be on your iPhone while your kids play at the park or it is.

Honestly, everyone has their opinion, but do we really need to share it? To all these issues there is no one right answer. These are not black and white issues so why do so many women treat them as if they are?

Women, Moms, your standard does not stand on the latest blog post or current hot parenting book. Your standard, if you are a Christian, should be God’s Word, nothing more.


Are you doing this?

And he said to him, β€œYou shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
(Matthew 22:37-39 ESV)

I know I still need help doing this, but I think once we have this figured out (if ever) we won’t be pointing fingers, we’ll be holding hands, despite our differences. We’ll be praying for that woman before we judge. We’ll be praying for discernment ourselves.

The Bible is what you need to use as your moral compass. The Bible and the Holy Spirit is what you need to tell whether what you’re doing is right or wrong. You will not find a yes or no to whether it’s okay to use your iPhone, but the Spirit of God will guide you. Stop looking to the world for advice, for guidance and find it in Jesus.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
(Romans 12:2 ESV)

So, if you want to feel guilty about something, feel guilty about not obeying God’s Word not man’s.

8 thoughts on “I’m Tired of the Mommy Battles

  1. Very well said! I wish we could just all show each other a little more grace. (BTW…I read that article you are speaking of…and instantly felt sad at the lack of grace. How can we make a snap judgement on someone when we only see them for a few minutes out of a 24 hour day. For all we know, that mom at the park was talking on the phone to one of her other children, a husband fighting overseas, or a friend who was needing a loving ear.)


  2. Oh no! I reposted the article, but it was not as a war, it was because I am so guilty of checking my phone while we are playing. I liked it because it was a reminder to me that I need to cherish the moments with my children and not let them slip away too quickly. I was not thinking of anyone, but myself. I like what Jamie said about not knowing why that person is on the phone at the park. Thanks for the post!


    1. I think both sides have good points. I know there are times when I should have put the phone down, but there are times when it may have been the one time in the day I could rest or plan while they play. I don’t think you reposting it was bad, but just as in other battles, some are choosing to take sides and there just isn’t a right side. If you know what I mean.


  3. I thought it was a great article. While we love in such a ‘social’ world, seeing something that spawns change or appropriate attention to a certain subject is worth while to ‘share’. While i am completely guilty of being on my phone too much I certainly didn’t feel this article was a mommy war at all. Is it ever ok to be on your phone ‘too much’. I don’t think so. Where the other topics you speak of there are two rights.

    I do love how you are bringing such focus to important topics, we ‘moms’ do get wrapped up in the world rather than in HIM. πŸ™‚


    1. Don’t get me wrong, Mir. I think the article you are referring to had a good point. I think what I failed to make clear was that this article you saw is not the only one out there. There are now many posts by other women countering what she is saying. They are saying it’s okay that you’re using your iPhone at the park, etc.
      I totally agree that we are all guilty of putting our attention on something else rather than our kids.
      The two rights I speak of are: it’s okay for you to be on you’re phone at the park and it’s okay for you not to be.
      As in all situations it comes down to your heart and what you’re letting motivate your actions.


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